16 Sociotypes and their compatibility
The chances of finding your soul mate are not so small if you put the theory of personality types as the basis for your searches.
It is estimated that there are several million potential ideal partners for each of us on the planet. And the chances of finding your soul mate are not so small, if you put the theory of personality types at the heart of the search.
Partner compatibility is a complex set of factors such as life experience, social status, upbringing, and personality type. And the main thing for harmonious relations is coincidence precisely on the last point.
There are 16 sociotypes that form 8 harmonious pairs. For each type of personality, for convenience, they have been given the names of prominent people or literary characters – according to their “proprietary” character traits, while both your man and you can act as, say, Shtirlitsa. Determine what type you belong to and you will understand which partner you need.
One partner – Stirlitz: Nordic character, seasoned, intellectual and logician, notices all the details, prone to introspection. He likes to play fair, does not accept cunning, appreciates accuracy and order. Esthete in everything.
Another partner is Dostoevsky: a delicate and sensitive owner of a rich spiritual world, he can empathize and adapt to the feelings of other people. Unobtrusive, always ready to help, very critical of himself. Fidelity in marriage is unshakable for him.
Relationships: This two compliant types. Fidelity is important for both, no one seeks entertainment on the side and does not look for another partner, but is immersed in grinding existing family relationships. Stirlitz often takes on the role of a breadwinner and an “elder” in a house, and patient and forgiving Dostoevsky brings comfort and is especially good at organizing family leisure, because there is not only workaholism in the world, but also fun and beauty that will save the world.
One partner – Don Quixote: disinterested idealist. Prefers to do what is interesting, rather than what is useful. Depends on people’s opinions, often closes in on himself, needs constant emotional nourishment.
Another partner is Dumas: friendly, caring and tolerant of the weaknesses of others. However, she does not like to share her inner feelings even with loved ones, preferring to solve her problems on her own.
Relationship: the dreamer, visionary and extrovert Don Quixote is perfectly balanced by the restrained introvert of Dumas. And if the first one is responsible for the emotional climate in the family, can shake everyone around, come up with a family trip or a new application for pasta, then the home-made realist of “Dumas” carefully monitors that the family has wealth, comfort and covered rear areas, and the phrase “do not scatter food, ”he also says.
One partner – Robespierre: a rational person with an analytical mindset, fair to the bone. Undemanding in everyday life, demanding of himself. The company behaves closed, does not like to obey.
Another partner is Hugo: quick-tempered, sensitive and emotional, true to its principles. He is a great connoisseur of art and friendly gatherings, but considers the family to be the main value, loves order and is a conservative.
Relationship: only the fiery “Hugo” is capable of melting the age-old ices of the logic of the kind, intelligent, but often lonely “Robespierre” with its love of life. “Hugo” is a man-orchestra, nourishes its dual partner with the necessary creative energy, making life around it more comfortable. In turn, receiving from Robespierre confidence in the future, which is provided by his intelligence, thoroughness and ability to succeed in the chosen business of life.
One partner – Hamlet: cautious and anxious, romantic and dreamy, he can responsibly carry out his work, but at the same time he is not a good strategist.
Another partner is Maxim Gorky: fighter, innovator and reformer, true to his ideas. A practitioner and realist who does not have illusions and is not picky in everyday life. He loves to find causal relationships, question and investigate.
Relationship: “Maxim Gorky ”loves hierarchy, he can equally easily create his own system or fit into someone else’s, and if he fits in, he will easily get to its very top. However, no matter how well his life was organized, all is not that if there is no soul in it. Hamlet is responsible for light, meaning and fullness. A little reckless, too chaotic and desperately not adapted for life. In such a pair, “Maxim Gorky” becomes more sociable and “human”, and “Hamlet” is more calm and reliable.
Defender and Slave Pair
One partner – Zhukov: Purposeful, active and strong-willed. Straightforward and unshakable, indifferent to the opinions of others. He has an increased self-esteem, decisive character, fearlessness and craving for emotional people.
Another partner is Yesenin: dreamy and amorous, inclined to forgive people mistakes, has a good sense of humor. Elegant, reaching for everything beautiful, but in people he values not appearance, but intellect and fortitude.
ABOUT relationships: for Zhukov, an existence in which there is no challenge, be it another business project or moving to a new country, is unthinkable. This monolithic person who can cope with any difficulties is born to protect the weak. That is precisely his dual – the vulnerable “Yesenin”, almost unable to exist alone. In turn, Yesenin reveals to the partner the secrets of his developed intuition, he is able to inspire, advise how to behave with certain people whom he feels extremely subtly. All in order for Zhukov to achieve his goals for the benefit of both.
Pair of strategists
One partner is Caesar: proactive and longing for respect, has a big impact on people, is emotional and demanding.
Another partner is Balzac: owner of vivid imagination and strong intuition, loves to analyze everything and is known as a cynic. Despite the feigned negativity and sadness, he remains responsive and kind.
Relationship: “Caesar “- always for power, but good power -” a strong man is right only if he is kind and moral. ” He can initially get power, but rarely is able to hold it. Balzac, in turn, will not lift a finger if it is not sure of the success of the enterprise. Calm, reasonable and wise, “Balzac” delights “Caesar” with his confident adherence to the intended path, whether it is building a career in the disputed area or a tedious road to detour to the country, bypassing all traffic jams. Balzac is on a long but sure path, accurately calculating all the risks. And if he decides to tie his fate with Caesar, this alliance will succeed.
One partner – Jack London: tireless entrepreneur, does everything quickly, constantly in a hurry. He is a romantic and traveler, a brave man and a visionary, an optimist and a true lover.
Another partner is Dreiser: a connoisseur of human souls with a delicate taste and good manners. He values friendship and love above all in which he is faithful. Loves order, very neat, prone to self-sacrifice.
Relationship: Jack London ”will find a way out of any situation thanks to its extraordinary approach to solving problems. A life without romance, anxiety and at least some kind of extreme is unthinkable for him. However, it is extremely important for him to know that his risk is important for someone, someone is waiting for him at home while he opens new lands or removes a cat from a tree. For Dreiser, a sense of duty is not empty words. Having once undertaken obligations, he will follow them and not grumble over trifles. The partnership between London and Dreisers is usually based on the principle of “are we complementary, so what else is needed?”
One partner – Huxley: artistic and developed, inclined to improvise. Loving, but conservative in matters of marriage and fidelity. May be content with little, often depends on his mood.
Another partner is Gabin: closed and stubborn, leisurely, and stingy with emotions. Loves comfort and organization at all levels. He is sensitive to his health, knows how to hide true feelings, is demanding and jealous.
Relationship: the softest pair, where the dualization process is quite long. The talented, emotional “Huxley” always wants to embrace the immensity, takes on many projects and leaves them behind, disappointed and feeling worthless. He needs a man who will appreciate himself and be able to adequately bear all the mood swings. This is “Gabin”, which loves physical labor, knows how to solve and complete applied tasks (it always drives all nails into the walls and fastens all the shelves in the bathroom), which in return for its unlimited patience and acceptance of a partner receives from a grateful and generous “Huxley” endorsement of his undertakings and faith in his success in life.
How not to swear over money, children, sex and paper envelope
How not to swear over money, children, sex and paper envelopes
We’ve had a lot of books about relationships, but none has ever made you laugh like that.
Belinda Luscombe has been writing about relationships for Time magazine for 20 years. And she actively practiced them: her marriage is almost 30 years old. So she discovered six areas that cause the most problems – everyone: intimacy, quarrels, finances, family, sex, mutual assistance.
In the book “Happiness Together” – instructions for technical inspection of relationships. Is everything going as it should or is it time to “change the oil”? There are many situations from family life in which you will probably recognize yourself, and tips to fix anything that is junk. With a fair amount of humor.
Do we have envelopes?
“My husband Jeremy does it with envelopes,” Belinda says. – Every time he asks if we have envelopes, although I have already shown him a thousand times where they are. On the shelf. Next to the handles. So what? My husband, going to send a letter, each time asks: “Do we have envelopes?”
Why can some trifle, insignificant imperfection in a loved one drive you to a frenzy? Because a wedding is not a happy ending at all. Married life is like clearing a path of snow: you start out full of enthusiasm, but it turns out that the activity requires much more endurance.
Of course, people get tired of relationships. This is as natural as the fact that food goes bad and the fire goes out. But we have learned to preserve food and keep the fire going. So you can come to an agreement with nature.
We are Incorporated
Imagine your marriage is a business partnership, “We Are Incorporated.” You manage finances together. Manage children together. Both of you are managers of your property – apartments, villas, cars. You combine the duties of a chef, taxi driver, travel agent and teacher.
Use proximity as a weapon, not a weapon. Cultivate a team spirit – it helps you achieve results in tedious and tedious tasks. Discuss resentments and grievances. This means that you spend time with a person not because it is pleasant, but because you create something together – a marriage, a family, a couple.
This is called “relational thinking,” and it is the key to a long and happier marriage.
Children are a laborious project, like putting together a three-dimensional puzzle, which also snaps and throws dirty clothes all over the apartment. One mother once said that upbringing is as much teamwork as robbing a bank: “One is robbing, the other is driving a car that will be used to get away.”
But remember, you are not together because of the children. Sometimes go on vacation without them. And remind yourself that it’s a good idea to nominate your partner sometimes.
Belinda Luscombe: “When my husband was looking after my son, the son fell out of the bed. When I was looking after my son, the baby fell out of the stroller. And which of us is the worst parent? ” – Source
If you think your partner is a lousy parent, try to moderate the criticism. After all, your skills are hardly perfect. This is the great meaning of having two parents: they bridge each other’s shortcomings.
Have a fight? Eat something
Belinda once asked Mark Zuckerberg what changed when Sheryl Sandberg, the first woman on the board, came to Facebook. Mark said: after her arrival, they forgot what hunger is. She made sure that there was always food on the tables during meetings.
Here’s a lesson from one of the richest women in the world: Never start an important conversation on an empty stomach.
If the relationship is broken
“Repairing” a marriage is exhausting. Sometimes it seems that getting a divorce is easier, as it is easier to buy new headphones than to untangle the wires from those that are. But think about this.
Scientists found 645 unhappy couples, and after 5 years they interviewed them. It turned out that those who got divorced did not feel happier than those who kept their marriage. And the couples who stayed together were glad they hadn’t parted.
Our thinking is aimed at solving problems, although in reality we need a different kind of thinking, “carousel”: now your horse is down, but wait a little – and it will rise again.
The book “Happiness Together” will surely appeal to those who appreciate humor. Belinda will make you laugh more than once and look at relationships from a different – more funny – angle. Family life can be boring, it can be difficult, but add a healthy dose of self-irony and it turns out that everything is not so bad.
Despite the humor, the conversation will go on the most serious topics, and you will find a lot of practical advice.
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We don’t find soul mates like beautiful seashells on the beach. We become soul mates. One of us is waves, the other is sand, and together we form a wonderful beach. Marriage means that you have tied your destiny with someone and said to this person: “It looks like the journey with you will be exciting.” So make it that way.
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